Couple Fights Over Annual Disney Vacation
They're not just fans of the movies, and they don't just buy the costumes for their kids. Rather, they're the people who are super into the fandom, securing limited-edition Disney products, making regular trips to the parks, and dressing up in Disney outfits.
So what happens when somebody who isn't a "Disney Adult" finds themselves married to a "Disney Spouse"?
Well, this is the predicament Reddit user, u/Either_Ambassador_54, found themselves in when their wife wanted to go to Disney World for the tenth year in a row.
"My wife Jess (39, female) and I (39) have been married for 13 years. After experiencing financial hardship throughout our 20s and early 30s, Jess and I are now fortunate enough to have the means to travel once or twice a year. The only problem is that Jess only wants to go to Disney World. We have been to Disney nine times now, and every vacation we have ever taken together was to go there, including our honeymoon."
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Back to the story: "I’m honestly beyond sick of Disney, and I never really liked going in the first place. Jess knows this, but she has no concept of travel beyond Disney."
"We’re currently planning a trip for April, and Jess, as usual, said that we can 'just go to Disney.' I explained that it sounds fun, but why don’t we go somewhere like Hawaii this time? Jess was confused. She asked why we would go to Hawaii. I responded that we could enjoy the spas and go to the beach."
"Jess mumbled a halfhearted answer and walked away."
"A few days later, she approached me, saying she made hotel reservations for Hawaii. At first, I was excited because although she did so without consulting me, it seemed like she was listening. But then, when she showed me the hotel she booked, I found she had made reservations for Aulani, the Disney resort in Hawaii."
"Frustrated, I told her I’m honestly tired of Disney and want to have a different experience this time. She told me that she was 'compromising' with me and that I should be 'appreciative' for the time she spent. I asked her if she would consider anything other than Disney for our trip, and she said no. At this point, I said that I wasn’t going."
"Now she’s furious. She canceled the reservation she made, and now she’s looking for a friend to go to Disney World with again without me.
Was I the a**hole here for not trying to accommodate her request?"
So, that's the story. And some of the top comments posed some very fair questions, such as:
"How the f*ck did this go on for nine trips without you saying something? I’d have gone mad after going a second time."
"For real. Who wants to go to Disney World on their f*cking honeymoon?!"
"Maybe he could sing 'A Whole New World' to her?"
A lot of people called out that this person has married a "Disney Adult" and how in the world of being a "Disney Spouse", it's really not out-of-character behavior:
"He married a Disney Adult. They’re a different breed. It’s one thing to be an adult and be able to enjoy Disney, but 'Disney Adults' are a whole other thing."
"For some people, Disney is a legit religion. Their home is decorated with icons of Disney characters, and Disney liturgies are written on the walls. Their vacations are religious pilgrimages to the Disney Mecca. This is why the wife looked confused."
"I have a friend who got married at Disney and returned several times for vow renewals. Lots of people love Disney vacations. But OP is not the a**hole. His wife should try something new and let him plan a trip."
But some people actually did think the person who posted was the a**hole:
"You're the a**hole for not speaking up earlier. If you hadn’t been such a b*tch earlier and spoken up, you could have had all of this resolved a decade ago."
"It is a compromise. It's Hawaii, not the Florida parks. Why not go to the resort and explore the island during the day? No need to stay in the resort all day.
Why not tell your wife outright that you're tired of Disney-centered vacations? Why not plan a vacation yourself? Why not plan a vacation with your wife? Why does she have to plan it?
You're the a**hole for leaving all the work to her, not communicating properly, and not recognizing that she did compromise to the best of her ability with your lack of communication."
"I agree. 95% of the replies are, 'Disney adults are weird. Not the a**hole.' When OP should’ve told his wife long ago that he isn’t into Disney World like she is.
I’m guessing they go, take a bunch of pictures where he’s smiling like they’re having a good time, and she takes that positive feedback to book another trip next year.
You're the a**hole, not for wanting to do something else, but for not communicating with your wife."
Are you surprised by the poll results, or did they match up with what you expected? Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation (be it with Disney or another location or type of fandom)? I'm genuinely torn on this particular story, so I would love to hear your thoughts on who's right and who's wrong in the comments!
Note: Some of this submission was edited for length and/or clarity.
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